We all grow up watching princess and romantic movies where boy meets girl and instantly they are in love and no matter what they live happily ever after ..
Well I hate to be the barrier of bad news but for the most part the is not how it works
In those movies the relationships are perfect and fighting never happens and when it does the relationship ends, again not the case!
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over five years now and I can tell you everything I said above about how the movies show it is the complete opposite!
The first time my boyfriend and I saw each other was my sophomore year in high school and we had two classes together, we never said one word to each other!
Yes I thought he was cute but I am the shyest person on the planet so he never knew!
I never talked to him but I did think he was extremely annoying because he was always the kid talking and being obnoxious (like all freshman boys)
After a few years past and he got my number and we started to hangout and although I really liked him it was not love at first sight!
Yes after a few months I fell in love with him and love him more and more each day but we still are not living a perfect life together!
No matter what anyone says any good relationship has fights in it!
When I say fights not I don't mean beating and putting down, I mean arguing and disagreements. Yes some of these are pretty big fights but it happens specially when you get really close to someone!
My boyfriend and I will have huge fights but what makes us a great couple is we know how to make it through those fights and move on!
So many of our friends tell us how much they wish they could be like us and never fight when in reality we do fight we just do what most couples don't do and we make it through!
All of us know that couple who says they are perfect and never fight well I'm gonna let you in on a secret...
Those are the couples who usually are the worst!
They are the ones who are hiding everything and its normally because something is very wrong!
Yes there is a line that can be crossed when it comes to fighting and if you feel it has been crossed then GET OUT because your gut feeling is always right and that line has probably been crossed!
Don't think just because you have been with someone longer than someone else that your relationship is stronger than theirs! This is one thing I cannot stand! Someone will say "my boyfriend bought me this he loves me so much" or "we've been together for so long and you haven't so we are more in love". Well again since when do you get to decide who loves who more or who has a better relationship?
And since when does it matter who has a better relationship?
Honestly if you are having to put your relationship up against someone else then that means you are doubting your own or judging your own and may want to rethink it!
In the end life is never a fairytale so don't try and make it that way! Love who you want and do what makes you happy! Never let anyone judge or hurt your relationship because in the end who cares what anyone else thinks all that matters is how you feel and how happy you are!
This may have sounded like some rambling but all this is things I wish I would have known when I was younger because I may have had more insight on what relationships should actually be like!
If anyone has anymore questions don't be afraid to ask!
XOXO Carissa Ann
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