Love at First Sight ... Maybe

We all grow up watching princess and romantic movies where boy meets girl and instantly they are in love and no matter what they live happily ever after ..

Well I hate to be the barrier of bad news but for the most part the is not how it works

In those movies the relationships are perfect and fighting never happens and when it does the relationship ends, again not the case!

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over five years now and I can tell you everything I said above about how the movies show it is the complete opposite! 

The first time my boyfriend and I saw each other was my sophomore year in high school and we had two classes together, we never said one word to each other! 

Yes I thought he was cute but I am the shyest person on the planet so he never knew! 

I never talked to him but I did think he was extremely annoying because he was always the kid talking and being obnoxious (like all freshman boys)

After a few years past and he got my number and we started to hangout and although I really liked him it was not love at first sight! 

Yes after a few months I fell in love with him and love him more and more each day but we still are not living a perfect life together! 

No matter what anyone says any good relationship has fights in it! 

When I say fights not I don't mean beating and putting down, I mean arguing and disagreements. Yes some of these are pretty big fights but it happens specially when you get really close to someone! 

My boyfriend and I will have huge fights but what makes us a great couple is we know how to make it through those fights and move on! 

So many of our friends tell us how much they wish they could be like us and never fight when in reality we do fight we just do what most couples don't do and we make it through! 

All of us know that couple who says they are perfect and never fight well I'm gonna let you in on a secret...

Those are the couples who usually are the worst! 

They are the ones who are hiding everything and its normally because something is very wrong! 

Yes there is a line that can be crossed when it comes to fighting and if you feel it has been crossed then GET OUT because your gut feeling is always right and that line has probably been crossed! 

Don't think just because you have been with someone longer than someone else that your relationship is stronger than theirs! This is one thing I cannot stand! Someone will say "my boyfriend bought me this he loves me so much" or "we've been together for so long and you haven't so we are more in love". Well again since when do you get to decide who loves who more or who has a better relationship?

And since when does it matter who has a better relationship?

Honestly if you are having to put your relationship up against someone else then that means you are doubting your own or judging your own and may want to rethink it! 

In the end life is never a fairytale so don't try and make it that way! Love who you want and do what makes you happy! Never let anyone judge or hurt your relationship because in the end who cares what anyone else thinks all that matters is how you feel and how happy you are! 

This may have sounded like some rambling but all this is things I wish I would have known when I was younger because I may have had more insight on what relationships should actually be like! 

If anyone has anymore questions don't be afraid to ask! 

XOXO Carissa Ann

Pick me up :)

While I was shopping today for new room decor I came across this picture and frame when I was at Homegoods. I was so excited about finding this because it went perfectly with my vision of colors I want in my room!  

Black and Gold so classy right?

Well I got home and started thinking about life and everything thats been going on the past few days  and realized ..

"this quote is something I need to live by" .. scratch that this quote is something everyone should live by! 

Always Believe that Something Wonderful is About to Happen! 

Why you ask?

Well let me tell you!

Everyone is going to have their bad days, but when you think good thoughts from those bad ones more likely it will turn into a good day. 

Easy way to put it 

You got a bad grade on a test? .. Well using this saying you could think maybe he will give extra credit or a retake! Well that would be something wonderful! 

It works in so many different situations and is just a quote I wanted to share with everyone and maybe it will make someones day just a little better! 

XOXO Carissa Ann

Is it to late to change ..

Ive always been an indecisive person .. like seriously one of the most indecisive people on the planet most people would probably agree. This was true when it came to sports, schools, clothes, pretty much anything to do with my life I could never choose what I wanted. 

Ill let you know this is probably what makes my life so stressful but when I finally decided what I would want I usually had a breakthrough moment and everything turned out the way I would want them to. 

This is no different now that I am in college .. 

many people go through high school knowing exactly what they want to study when they move on to college, I was no different. I went through a career tech program during high school in hopes to help with my dream of becoming a sports reporter for ESPN. That was until my senior year when I realized that wasn't for me, although I still had a HUGE passion for sports it was not something I could see myself spending my life doing. 

Flash forward to choosing colleges. I decided going to a community college would be the smartest approach to planning what I wanted to do (not to mention the cheapest). I went through an entire year doing general classes figuring out what I liked to do. I decided that I loved planning events and especially loved weddings and thought this could be a perfect career for me to go into! After finishing a year and a half of classes and only having one semester left I realized I'm not sure if this is what I want to do. That means onto deciding what to do next.. 

Throughout my life I have always had a love for the ocean, so with that I decided marine biology would be perfect for me! I found a school that offered marine biology and decided to go through with it. I loved everything about this school and the program the only downside was 50,000 dollars is way to much to be paying for one year of school. Plus I was so far behind I would have been there for three or more years.. not something I wanted to do on the price. So with that I started looking into other schools that had marine biology programs. This was hard seeing as I did not want to leave the state and we are no where near a beach. 

I ended up at a school that was right by my house and WAYY less than the price of the last school and ended up working for my degree in biology. After a year and a half of going through this program I hit a road block. 

Your probably thinking to yourself "why is she rambling on about her life, where is the tip part of this whole speel?" Well to get to that you have to see what changes I've been making to get to this point. 

Now I am a semester behind and all my friends have graduated and have "big people jobs" and I am still struggling through college..

I decided to talk to my counselor about what is all going on and here is where the breakthrough happened .. 

I started crying in his office because he made me fill out a paper of why I am struggling so much, he then showed me and I realized I am not doing what I want to be doing! I don't want to do biology I wanted to do marine biology or anything to do with the ocean! THATS A HUGE DIFFERENCE! 

Well as soon as next semester starts I will be a business student! 

Again your saying "and this has to do with anyone else because... " 

Well let me tell you ..

People get so far into something then realize they do not like doing that anymore. They think I spent so much money and time on this I can't just quit or move to something else.

YES YOU CAN AND YOU SHOULD!! 

I say this because I know from experience that yes it will push you back but 

ask yourself this .. 

"Would I rather be save money and time but be stuck doing something I hate for the rest of my life?" OR "Would I like to spend the money and time finding out something I love and love what I'm doing!" 

PICK THE SECOND ONE!! PLEASE 

You should never make a decision that will make you go through life thinking is this really what I want to do. Because if your asking yourself that then your probably making a bad decision. 

It took me finally breaking down to make an appointment with my counselor or advisor to then go and have him show me I was making the wrong decision. 

If you have any doubts TALK TO SOMEONE it may show you that you are doing something wrong! 

Also don't let anyone pressure you into staying where you are at (IE PARENTS). My mom told me I was making a horrible mistake every time I changed what I wanted to do .. Well NEWS FLASH its your life not theres! 

All I hope is that this post helped one person change there lives for the better when it came to school or even a career! If anyone has further questions I would love to help them!

XOXO Carissa Ann